How to stop dating emotionally unavailable men
The wonderful thing about dating is that we attract what we need to work on in ourselves.
Women get into bad relationships over and over because they don’t learn from their mistakes.
It’s time to get your emotional needs met in a romantic relationship. It’s time to be loved for who you are, not what you do. I filmed this week’s episode in Bali, one of my favorite places in the world.
It’s time to stop thinking that you have to be perfect to get the love you crave and let down the walls and allow yourself to be loved for the perfectly imperfect being that you are. Due to some technical difficulties, we were not able to get this episode out to you on Wednesday.
"My therapist thinks I'm only attracted to emotionally unavailable men," she told me afterward.
This pissed me off, because people used to suggest that to me too, judgmentally, like I was broken and masochistically handpicking guys who'd poke at my wounds. When really, my friend isn't single because she was attracted to two men who weren't ready to commit to her.
They were hurt and I could treat them better than their previous lover because, let’s face it, I’m better than everyone. It never occurred to me that “he” might have been just a jerk to begin with.
After my last unsuccessful relationship, where I was just holding on, hoping he would change and be the person I wanted him to be, I had had enough.
So, I took a much-needed hiatus to regroup, reprogram, and refocus.
I was going to swoop in and save the day and show “him” how much better I was than “she” was to “him.” And “he” will not cheat on me like “he” did “her.” But, guess what? After finally learning my lesson, I’m now ready to re-enter the dating arena, and I’ve made three promises to myself.
If you’ve also attracted unhealthy relationships, perhaps these could help you, too.